Episode 10 - Gimme Some More

In this gripping episode of "They Call Me Daddy," titled "Gimme Some More," hosts Torrean, Mack, and Mondo engage in a heartfelt exploration of life's multifaceted experiences. The episode starts with lively banter about the quirks of calling oneself "Daddy" and quickly delves into a profound discussion about personal growth and resetting life goals.

Mondo shares a transformative story of his venture into tech after a revelatory moment in 2010, highlighting the impact of influential media and the pivotal decisions that shape our careers. The conversation takes a nostalgic turn as they reminisce about childhood experiences, reflecting on the simplicity and challenges of taking baths at their grandmother's house. This narrative weaves in humor with a touch of familial warmth.

The episode takes a deeper dive as they discuss the significance of birthdays within their family, mainly focusing on the upcoming birthdays of Rainy and Kadence. They touch on the emotional aspect of parenting, the journey of self-discovery, and the priceless nature of being present in their children's lives.

Torrean brings to the fore the importance of encouraging children's dreams, ignited by a viral video of a mother dampening her son's aspirations. This sparks a critical conversation about the role of parents in nurturing and protecting their children's dreams and ambitions.

They conclude with a reflection on the power of positive thinking and the impact of mental health on overall well-being, a fitting end to an episode rich in laughter, tears, and life lessons.

Join the hosts for an episode that's not just about parenting but about life's unpredictable journey, the power of dreams, and the unbreakable bond of family. "Gimme Some More" is more than just a podcast episode; it's a slice of life served with honesty, humor, and heart.

Transcript

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Speaker 1: Yo yo yo what's good y'all welcome to another episode of the they call me daddy parents podcast let me introduce my co-host we got Mack and we got Mondo welcome back Mondo my name is Torrean aka daddy what's going on y'all how y'all feeling 

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Speaker 2: a week a week away from you calling yourself Daddy, bro, I think I might have needed that, you know? A little break of this dude calling himself Daddy the whole podcast, you know what I'm saying? 

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Speaker 1: I thought you were saying you needed daddy in your life. You know 

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Speaker 2: what I'm saying? That is not what I was saying. Oh, OK. My bad. Hints why we need some clarity on this podcast. 

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Speaker 1: Just making show, you know? 

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Speaker 2: Nah, wouldn't that feel kind of odd, though, for somebody to be like, hey, boy, I need you in my life, fam. Come here, daddy. 

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it would be weird if they said it like that. If they said it like that, that shit would most definitely be weird. 

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Speaker 2: He would appreciate that shit. He'd be like, you? 

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Speaker 1: I know, 

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Speaker 2: he'd be like, you want these socks? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah. 

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. 

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Speaker 1: But no, like, yeah, shit would be kind of weird, but at the same time, like, if, you know, if you need me, what's up? Like, you know, what's up? 

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Speaker 2: You know? It's all good. It's all good. I'm good. You know, I'll call you, Torian, if I need you, you know? 

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Speaker 1: For sure. How you feeling, Mondo? 

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Speaker 2: What's going on with you? Oh man, you know, life just be lifin'. We got different background, different vibe, different place, different environment. It just feels like a whole life reset. Actually, 1 thing I was sharing with somebody the other day, because I'm back at my pop's house, just in a similar environment with my computer and stuff set up. 

00:01:38 - 00:01:58
Speaker 2: And so I tell the people the story way back, January 7, 2010, was the moment I actually got into tech, because I watched this special on CNBC called Planet of the Apps. And it was like, oh, like this iPhone is a big deal. And apps is going to be a big deal. If you want to be an app developer, it's like you should go in this direction. And literally that day, I was like, I'm doing that. 

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Speaker 2: And so this is in 2010. And I literally came upstairs into my dad's room, because it was where the computer was at, only computer in the house. And I was like, I guess it's for me to get started. And I just started like, how do you start a business? How do you write a business plan? 

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Speaker 2: How do you? And I just researched. And I spent months just up in my pop's room, like starting literally a new journey in my life that was post-basketball, right? It was like leaving an athlete behind, stepping into tech, and to not, so then for now, to come full circle and be like, all right, it's like another act in life, right, like here's another reset. Feels familiar, it feels Like a good reset, and it's also like, I sure am curious what's next, what's around the corner, so That's where I'm at, bro. 

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Speaker 2: Being extremely optimistic, I am Mr. Optimism. But sometimes it'd be like, man, can this can this car drive a tad bit faster? You feel me? So, 

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Speaker 1: yeah, no, that's dope, man. That's dope. You know, 1 thing I had said to you, man, there's so many great memories at Uncle Ed's house, you know, so many great moments that we share together, you know, as obviously as the house you grew up in, but but also the environment there, you know, it's like, man, you got hella love all the family that lives there still. And, you know, you go to Uncle Ed's house. Nobody wants to leave because it's that dope. 

00:03:22 - 00:03:38
Speaker 1: So like, you know, I think it's the perfect, perfect place for you to, you know, to have that reset, but also to like, you know, you know, it's going to spring word you to that next level because, you know, you're back in a familiar area. Right. Like it's just so. 

00:03:38 - 00:03:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure I feel similar to how Mac feels, right? Just a house full of family, right? Boys yelling, cracking fun, laughing, clowning, video games, talking stuff. And so, you know, it'd be 03:00 in the morning. You'd be like, man, y'all still up, fam? 

00:03:53 - 00:04:13
Speaker 2: You know? But yeah, it's that energy, man. It brings you back to be like, oh, yeah, like this is that, This is that environment, that love environment that we come from, and it's why we are able to show up in the world the way that we do, because it's just nothing but love in the environment in which we were raised. So it feels good. 

00:04:14 - 00:04:35
Speaker 1: So 1 question I got real quick, right? We're talking about going back to familiar places. Something I was thinking about earlier is, could y'all go back to taking baths at grandma's? So for our listeners, our grandma does not have a shower. So we all grew up taking baths at grandma's house, but her tub ain't that big. 

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Speaker 1: And so like, you know, she's got 5 boys too, and they are all tall, you know, for the most part. So it's just like, and then she's got grand, you know, all the grandkids were all pretty tall in height as well. So like, could you go back to that? 

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Speaker 3: I mean, if I needed to, I think the hardest part was after you took a bath and you had to clean them up like a tub. 

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Speaker 2: That's the worst part. You know, you take a shower, 

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Speaker 3: you in and out that joint. But, you know, grandma, you got to put that lice on, wipe yourself, wipe the tub afterwards. 

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, she got that super old school, perfectly curvature tub, though. Like if I can go shower at a different crib and then come over there and do a spa in grandma's bathtub. I can do that, you know what I'm saying? It's comfy. 

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Speaker 3: Epsom salt and all that, ready 

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Speaker 2: to go. For sure, you know, Epsom salt stay in the bathroom. You know what I'm saying? 

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Speaker 1: Hey, them Epsom salt baths, that hits on a different level, for sure. Yeah, what's good with you, Mac, though, man? How you feeling? 

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling good. I was listening to Mondo like the thing that's the word that stuck out to me was reset. And I was trying to figure out like, damn, how am I feeling? You know, because you only get asked that on the podcast really but I feel like I'm in a resetting stage as well, you know I'm actually I'm feeling good But also like I've been just in taking a lot of knowledge lately like been in like, you know Doing that shit intentionally just trying to better myself still, you know, I mean not get distracted by the holidays and all the stress that comes with that shit is just Continuing to be a better person and be a better dad a better companion, you know just Just trying to better myself right now in this season. So that's where I'm at But I would shoot OT 

00:06:19 - 00:06:51
Speaker 1: Man, so you guys said reset and I'm gonna say present like you know you know this year man was a hell of a year we kind of alluded to just from a family aspect of things and it's just dope to be back present. I feel like I'm you know, back to back to being me now, right? And then so, you know, it's not quite, I didn't quite need the whole reset but you know, I did need to make sure I'm showing up and you know, I feel back to just being that, being me, being Torian, and I love it. 

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Speaker 2: That's why I call you Torian. You know? 

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Speaker 1: All right. Yeah, you Torian. Yeah, I feel you, man. I feel you. I feel you. 

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Speaker 1: You know what it is, though. 

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? 

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Speaker 1: You know what it is. 

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Speaker 2: Look, we ain't even going to go there. You are a father and your daughter's birthday is coming up. How do you feel about that? You know, boss lady, what's she getting? What she want? 

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Speaker 2: What job were you traveling to? What is it? 

00:07:20 - 00:07:46
Speaker 1: Man, yeah. Happy birthday, Rene, you know, from your dad. So first, let me tell you this. Every time Rene sees our podcast, I can't I can't let her listen to it because as I was reminded by I got in a little trouble this weekend, I wouldn't call it trouble trouble, but from my aunt and then also from 1 of my uncles was like, man, y'all sure do cuss a lot, right? And I'm like, okay, so I'm going to try to go through this whole podcast without cussing. 

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Speaker 1: So we're going to see how long that 

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Speaker 3: I was thinking the same thing. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're gonna see how long we last with that. But every time rainy sees our podcast, man, her eyes and ears just blow up like she gets the biggest smile on her face. She's just so excited. And so like she doesn't quite understand what podcast is, but every time she hears even the word podcast, she's like, Daddy, they're talking about you guys. Right. 

00:08:10 - 00:08:33
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, that is dope. So it just shows like, you know, the fact that we are here having this, you know, doing our podcast on a week to week basis, like it's affecting her life. Right. And like it's something like as she turns from 6 to 7, she's obviously figuring out who she is as a person, everything else. But it's just dope to have that motivation to say, like, yeah, my dad has a podcast. 

00:08:33 - 00:08:44
Speaker 1: So shout out to y'all too for that. In terms of what she wants. She wants fucking Oh, man, I cussed already. I didn't last not even a minute, but we got we got reset. 

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Speaker 3: Oh, I know. I know. I'm a slip up. So it's 

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Speaker 1: all good. Yeah, we gonna reset and we'll get back there. But she wants everything. You know, she she wants everything, every toy, you know, from she loves Monster High. So she wants all the coftons, as she calls it, not coffin, but coftons. 

00:09:03 - 00:09:26
Speaker 1: So she wants that. But, you know, our whole thing with her, her birthday is close to Christmas. We want her to have memories like memories and experiences and, you know, family events is so important to me. And so we try to take her on a trip every year for her birthday. So, you know, we've gone to Florida last last couple years And we even went to Puerto Rico for like her third birthday. 

00:09:26 - 00:09:58
Speaker 1: So this year we're doing a Disney cruise we're taking her on a Disney cruise will be on the cruise ship on her birthday. And she's pretty excited about it, you know, like, I mean, pretty excited about it. Hopefully she'll get to use her Spanish a little bit. We are going to the Bahamas, so I think they mean, obviously English, But I think they speak a little bit of Spanish there, so hopefully she'll be able to utilize some Spanish there and You know just try to show her the best birthday. You know she possibly can have You know as she turned 7 and it's killing her dad right now. 

00:09:58 - 00:10:23
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie man I'm a pretty emotional dude like I'm very sentimental. I've been looking at all the old videos, even though I lost a lot of my videos from when she was first born to about 3 years old. And that saddens me pretty much every day. So, you know, but at the same time, I'm blessed because, you know, there are a lot of parents out there that, you know, unfortunately, their kid, they don't get to see their kid to turn 7. Right. 

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Speaker 1: So I'm blessed at the same time. But yeah, she's pretty excited. So and 

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Speaker 2: her birthday is what day again? 

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Speaker 1: December 10th. 

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Speaker 2: The 10th. OK, OK. Well, why? While we're in that range, let's let's shout out Juvan. You know, say happy birthday, Vonn, because he's in that same, you know, that man and just. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah. All all the love in in that space. Right. Like so shout out to find. Happy birthday. 

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Speaker 2: Love you. 

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Speaker 1: So yeah, shout out. Shout out, man. Happy birthday. I love you. Yeah, man, love you. 

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Speaker 1: With that being said, though, Rainy is definitely going to want y'all to say happy birthday on the podcast tour. So if you guys can sing on the count of 3, that'd be good. 123. 

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Speaker 3: Happy birthday, Rainy. I love you. Happy 

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Speaker 2: birthday. Happy birthday, Rainy. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, straight up, though. But yeah, my dog. And then we have another special birthday, too, man. So Rainy, Vaughn, and Cadence. Cadence's birthday is coming up. 

00:11:31 - 00:11:59
Speaker 2: Big dog Cadence, big OG Cadence. She yeah, she's on Friday. It has been such an interesting journey to this birthday, man. I have some peace in it right now, but it took a while to get this piece to offer some context to listeners. So last year, man, just a a wild year of like I talk about reset, like full reset, man, it was reset after reset after reset. 

00:12:00 - 00:12:19
Speaker 2: So I just got a text that on this day a year ago, I went to the hospital. All right. My mind was blown up. I say God was like, Oh, let me blow up your mind real quick. And so went to the hospital. 

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Speaker 2: They're like, Oh, you need to stay in here. We can put you in a psych ward for a few days. And it was just like I was like, I feel like I'm good, but I don't feel like I'm good. Cool. And it was 1 of those. 

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Speaker 2: I guess family moments where they're like people were worried, right? Like, man, what's up with Mondo? Mondo's always good. Like what's happening? Let's rally around, let's support them. 

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Speaker 2: And so 1 shout out to the family for that. Because I don't feel like there was a lot of judgment, right? Like, it's just like, yo, this is, this is Mando as it feels anybody else. And we just going to shower Mando with love. So thank you for that. 

00:12:54 - 00:13:12
Speaker 2: But the 1 thing that I was made aware of last year was I was actually in the hospital on cadence, the birthday. And so I was like, dang, I didn't even remember that. Right. You know, I'm just in there. And I'm reflecting now of her coming into the hospital and me saying happy birthday and all that stuff. 

00:13:15 - 00:13:38
Speaker 2: But fast forward, right, we're a whole another year. But this year has been, well, I'm gonna be still, right? I'm not gonna do anything. Cool, if God set me down and told me to be still and chill, well, I'm gonna be still all the way till God tells me to get back up. And so I haven't worked, I've just been disciplined, spiritual journey, mental journey, all this stuff. 

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Speaker 2: Well, a year later, it's just like, what's their birthday? I don't have the tools, the resources to provide the things that cadence is used to. Like you do traveling to man. Like I grew up with my pops was an amazing gift giver. And so like presents under the tree or birthday, like it was always like, man, We can't wait to see what pops got us. 

00:14:03 - 00:14:37
Speaker 2: And so for cadence, you know, from the beginning, I think she was 3 was iPads and 800 gifts under the tree and all the stuff. And so it just kept growing from there. Well, this year, right, Cadence has been super patient and loving and kind and just like, man, I know things are are challenging, dad, and I know you're going through your stuff, whatever, and I'm gonna support you. But her birthday, you know, she's been she's been coming for me a little bit, which I'm like, I always say, like, thank you for saying that. Right. 

00:14:37 - 00:15:02
Speaker 2: If you can if you can say that to me, that means that you have the confidence to open your mouth and say anything to somebody else that you may feel like isn't in line with what you believe, not that what you believe is always right. But the confidence to say things out loud, right, and not hold it in. Like, I'm proud of that woman. And so she's been challenged me the past. And a couple of weeks, like on some like, yo, you've been knowing this day has been coming. 

00:15:02 - 00:15:21
Speaker 2: Like, why haven't you taken care of business type stuff? And for me, I just had to stand in my face. Like, yo, OK, you better turn 17. You want stuff. And any other year, if I have it, I'll get you stuff. 

00:15:22 - 00:15:54
Speaker 2: But for some reason this year, I'm not supposed to be the 1 to get you stuff. Trying to explain that to a 17 year old, like, you know, it ain't it. Like, you gotta approach that a different way. However, it was heavy on my heart for a while right because I always was able to give the stuff but I'll share 1 last story about this before I let y'all hop in yeah 2 days ago I watched the documentary of Tyler Perry on Amazon Prime. Fam, you seen the man? 

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Speaker 3: That shit is fire, bro. 

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Speaker 2: When I 

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Speaker 3: talk about getting salt, bro, I'm sitting there like, fuck, tear coming down. 

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Speaker 2: What? Oh, dear. 

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bro. And that's a very, very dope documentary. 

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Speaker 2: So watch, watch the Tyler Perry documentary on Amazon Prime, because if it got Mack to shed a tear, I ain't never seen that in life. You know what I'm saying? But I was watching it and. You know, the trauma in his life was it was O.C., but I'm watching it and I'm just like. I know at the end. 

00:16:33 - 00:17:20
Speaker 2: The story will be as dope, if not doper. Whatever it is, it's just like, yo, you have to put in this work right now that nobody else sees, that nobody else believes, that nobody else understands, but there's just something in your heart or something that God already put on you like just do this sacrifice all this extra stuff right now and just follow this guidance and so after watching that documentary I was just like all right God I got you I'm just gonna keep walking and I know that eventually it's all going to work out exactly how it should. And they offer me some peace of mind, man, because for so long, right? Like, did nobody know who that dude was like He ain't nobody. And then even when I gave him something like, oh, man, this this film just going to come out and I'm going to be nothing. 

00:17:20 - 00:17:30
Speaker 2: And then he just killed it and killed it and kept killing it, kept killing it. And for me, I look at it like. You know, he was just a vessel, right? Right. He was just a person that just kept going. 

00:17:30 - 00:17:52
Speaker 2: I believed in the thing that nobody else believed in. And if you if you want to be that person and you continue to be that person, eventually God's going to work through you and deliver all the things that, you know, you could couldn't even have asked for. So here I am, I'm a step into Friday. I'm trying to think of something sentimental to give cadence to just say, like. I can't give you the big thing. 

00:17:52 - 00:18:23
Speaker 2: Here's the little thing, but like that rock that Torian got right, sometimes that little thing is the thing. And so I'm going to spend some time trying to find that little thing. And hopefully a year from now or 10 years from now she's like man this little thing on that birthday like it's actually the thing that actually mattered. So my bad man I took up a lot of space with that story but man that's what's going on with Mondo in a birthday season not to mention Christmas around the corner. So we need to go there, but it's all good. 

00:18:23 - 00:18:31
Speaker 3: No, that's big, man. It's big. You talk about that shit, too, man, because, you know, this is men. That's some stuff we try to hide, man. And that's that's big. 

00:18:31 - 00:18:35
Speaker 3: You'd also respect you, Mondo. Yeah, and I want 

00:18:35 - 00:18:50
Speaker 1: and I want to say, man, like, you know, man, the 3 of us was there when Cadence was born, right? Like we were Cadence came back to the house. I mean, and Mack was giving lessons on how to change diapers. You know what I'm saying? Like to Mondo. 

00:18:50 - 00:19:30
Speaker 1: And it was like, you know, she was just kicking it, like kicking it in the party house. Right. And, you know, at the time, like and, you know, the Mack has kids and, you know, our friends have kids and cousins and, you know, you know, people have kids and man, like, you know, when I had, you know, we had had rainy I'm like, man, like, you know, I get I get complimented all the time. Like, man, you are just a great dad. And I had great examples, you know, from like, you know, the older generation, but then from y'all, from both of y'all, you know, and Mondo, you were you were 1 of the first in our family that, you know, are my peers to have a kid. 

00:19:30 - 00:19:53
Speaker 1: Right. And it's like, man, you've been such a great dad for the entire cadence, his entire life from like from day 1, right? From being 21 years old to just now. And so like you laid the foundation, you know, so like I know like right now it's heavy on her, you know, because she's she's turning 17. Right. 

00:19:53 - 00:20:18
Speaker 1: And it's like, but man, for 17 years, you laid the foundation for for all of us, you know, for all of us from a peer standpoint and things. And so like, man, don't let that get lost, bro, because like you said, you've all you've always been able to deliver. And so was 1 year like, you know, I know her 18th is going to be better. Her 19th is going to be better. Her 20th is so honest for the rest of her day on life. 

00:20:19 - 00:20:33
Speaker 1: Right. Like, I'm confident in that. But last year, right, last year was a scary, scary moment. You know, I talked to Mondo every day and, you know, Mondo, as he alluded, he went to the hospital. Right. 

00:20:33 - 00:20:57
Speaker 1: And so for you not to miss cadence his birthday. I'm sure that was sad and a whole nother level. Right. And so just the fact that man, you're gonna give her a big ass hug And yeah, she might be disappointed from a material aspect of things like it's normal at 17 But in the grand scheme of things bro, like I love you and thank you for laying that foundation down for us, bro 

00:20:57 - 00:21:27
Speaker 3: Facts and I know it's weighing on you that you know, you think about the material shit and all that but I think last year, bro You probably gave her the best gift you ever have niggas and no 1 like damn. My dad's okay. My dad straight But you ain't gonna give her no gift better than that, bro. You are the gift bro. Don't forget that shit, man I think you know just us in this world, but we We got a quick and caught up in all this material shit, bro Kids don't care about that bro what they care about today if I call my dad he gonna answer You know I'm saying if I need a laugh. 

00:21:27 - 00:21:40
Speaker 3: I'm gonna call my dad like It ain't about the material shit, bro. We got to quit putting all that weight on ourselves, bro. That's just not real. Yeah, we could, you know, go crazy, put all that shit in a tree. But at the end of the day, they forget about shit. 

00:21:40 - 00:21:46
Speaker 3: They get this year a week from now. You know what I mean? It's like, hey, my dad is good. My dad loves me. My dad is here. 

00:21:46 - 00:21:49
Speaker 3: So man, shout out to you all. 

00:21:49 - 00:22:04
Speaker 1: Now, and last thing I want to say 1 thing more thing before you chime in, Mondo, you know, I know I can I can earn Mondo? I get on your mind. Oh, skin. I can clown Mondo like no other. But man, the only other person that can really match me in that is cadence. 

00:22:04 - 00:22:29
Speaker 1: Like that's how dope their relationship is. And like, yeah. So like 1 other thing Mondo kind of taught me, it was like, you know, when him, when him and cadence is in the car, he doesn't take, you know, calls or anything like that's just their time. And so when I pick Rainier from school now, I'm like, yo, I got to get off the phone because I made that promise and commitment to her. And so that's just another example, man, of just the dope things that you laid out there. 

00:22:29 - 00:22:40
Speaker 1: And it's like a nugget that I'm able to use and apply to my to my daughter. And so that can be just our time. And so like now it should be clowning me just like cadence be clowning you, 

00:22:40 - 00:22:41
Speaker 3: you know? 

00:22:41 - 00:22:42
Speaker 1: So, 

00:22:42 - 00:22:58
Speaker 2: yeah, I appreciate that. And Man, I said like the little thing that it might be, man, it might be these first 25 minutes of this podcast. You know, like I really appreciate y'all saying that. It means a lot. It has been hard. 

00:23:00 - 00:23:15
Speaker 2: I even know like it's probably been hard for cadence, right? To just shoulder all that for so long. And I just want to make sure that there comes a time to where she can finally just release all that. Like it just know like, all right, we're past that season. And so, yeah, man, thank you. 

00:23:15 - 00:23:23
Speaker 2: I love you all, appreciate it. Cadence. I love you. Happy birthday and I'm doing my best 

00:23:27 - 00:23:30
Speaker 1: Great job, bro, and happy birthday cadence, you know, 

00:23:30 - 00:23:31
Speaker 3: Happy birthday. 

00:23:31 - 00:23:44
Speaker 1: Happy 17th you and von 17 Years old man feels like it feels like yesterday. I was crawling around and you know causing havoc so crazy So 

00:23:44 - 00:23:47
Speaker 3: come on man shift his gear bro. Yeah man you know what 

00:23:47 - 00:23:49
Speaker 2: I'm saying. Toyin where the joke at? 

00:23:50 - 00:23:53
Speaker 3: That nigga that nigga was getting sensitive over there too. 

00:23:53 - 00:24:20
Speaker 1: Yeah you know like I said man you know because y'all y'all y'all are close to my heart man and it's important to say that man you know like it is man like you know this right now is a time of seasonal depression and you know, month, especially in Minnesota is cloudy now outside. It snowed overnight. Like, you know, people, people be locked into their feelings, man. It is, you know, so it's great to heat, reassure people like y'all are out, you're on the right journey. You're doing the right thing. 

00:24:20 - 00:24:48
Speaker 1: You know, and you know, Mado, you kind of said you got some inspiration from that or just thought the Busta Rhymes interview that he just recently did podcast. I'm not sure who it was with, but like you were like, yo, I was able to pull something from that because he just laid out, laid it all out there. And that's the thing with the truth, right? Like if you tell the truth, it'll set you free. There's no nothing else can hold hold you back because you told your truth. 

00:24:49 - 00:24:55
Speaker 1: And so, Mata, you want to kind of tell us a little bit about the interview and kind of like what you thought was about it? 

00:24:56 - 00:25:07
Speaker 2: Yeah. So 1, it is Diary of an Entrepreneur. I don't even know the host name. It was the first podcast of his I had watched. But man, it's to Buster. 

00:25:07 - 00:25:18
Speaker 2: And I'm not even a huge Buster fan. Right. Like, you know, he got some some hit boys right from back in the day, but I don't follow him like that. But this interview was so fire. But. 

00:25:19 - 00:25:57
Speaker 2: He asked what is the 1 thing that he wanted to leave for his kids mindset wise and Buster just kind of leaned in like. Like you have to find the thing that you are willing to be. Unwavering in your face, like the word that he used specifically was delusional, right? He's just like, yo, you have to see something that to everybody else, they're like, what are you looking at, bruh? I cannot see this thing that you see. 

00:25:58 - 00:26:11
Speaker 2: You're delusional, you're crazy. Like what? Like, go ask your dad, go ask your brother, go ask your cousin, go ask nobody else sees this man. Like you need some help. But then when you keep going, right? 

00:26:11 - 00:26:27
Speaker 2: Like if you believe in manifestation, right? Like whatever word it is, faith, whatever, like, forcing things into existence. It's there. It is already there. And so can you turn that delusion, right? 

00:26:27 - 00:26:55
Speaker 2: Can you stick with that delusion, that dream, so long that eventually it just materializes. And so he just said it in a way where it hit home, right? Thinking about a year ago, going to the hospital and everybody looking at me like, man, is this dude gonna be all right? And I'm looking at everybody else like, fam, I'm good. How can you not see that I'm good? 

00:26:55 - 00:27:25
Speaker 2: However, I now see things differently somehow, some way. And still to this day, right, I can't explain it, but it's kind of like, I don't know, it's kind of like cats, it's like, oh yeah, like when I, I can taste music, right? Or like when I hear music, I see colors, right? It's my version of that, like I'm just able to look at the world a certain kind of way, And so the delusion always makes sense until it's not delusional, until it is here. And then Busta says, then everybody's like, oh man, I guess that brother was genius. 

00:27:26 - 00:27:41
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like eventually you become genius. And that's just the will to follow that yellow brick road when ain't nobody else there. Right. When it's just you and God and that final straightaway. 

00:27:41 - 00:28:02
Speaker 2: And you're like, man, I can see the finish line and ain't nobody else out here. I'm in the desert. Don't nobody else even know where I'm at and then eventually it's just there. So man, that buster interview just it was that with the Tyler Perry, right? Seeing that back to back days was like, oh yeah, man, this this was for me. 

00:28:02 - 00:28:19
Speaker 2: It gave me enough to stand up tall and just be like, I'm going to finish this race. Even if I was crawling, now I stood up on my own 2 feet. Like, oh, now I'm going to walk across this finish line with my head up high. And I feel good about it. 

00:28:20 - 00:28:35
Speaker 3: No, for sure. And just listen to you talk like for me, I would think that that's kind of rooted in confidence a little bit, right? Self-confidence, because, you know, people always going, you know, hey, you can't do this or no, that's not real. You ain't gonna be able to accomplish that, right? So it's rooted in confidence. 

00:28:35 - 00:28:41
Speaker 3: And also when you're at the younger stages, that's why using your imagination is so important. Right? 

00:28:41 - 00:29:02
Speaker 2: So important. Super important. Well, it's 1 of the things yo, Mack just hit something so man, so fundamentally fascinating about adults, right? Like, as kids, think of Jazz playing with his men all day, right? Think about kids and Geron just being like, yo, this is, This is magical, right? 

00:29:02 - 00:29:14
Speaker 2: Like, and you looking like, oh yeah, Rainy, like that is everything that you say it is. Fast forward 30 years, if adults say that, you're like, hey fam, like you need some meds? 

00:29:14 - 00:29:16
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Right, No, straight up. 

00:29:16 - 00:29:33
Speaker 2: But it's just like, yo, being able to keep that right. Like that's literally the Peter Pan story. Like if you think about Robin Williams, man, right. Like he got so old into business, he can no longer use his imagination. Like going to Never Neverland was like, oh, you can't see this food on the table? 

00:29:34 - 00:30:10
Speaker 2: Right, like that, I never forget that moment where everybody's smashing, right, and he's looking like, ain't nothing in these bowls. And then eventually, like, he just forced his imagination to see the delusion, right, and then boom, right, food fight, like, it's 1 of the most memorable TV moments from grandma's house, right? That I'll never forget. And so again, like it goes back to how we started this podcast, us being together, us sharing love, us sharing imagination, us sharing space. Like we held that together for so long that now, like in our 30s, we're like, yeah, we can still believe in some of this stuff. 

00:30:11 - 00:30:29
Speaker 2: And if somebody seems like they're on the fringes, we still somehow gonna back them Because he might be right or she might be right so man Mack so spot-on like to like Let's continue to push these young folks to dream To be the Disney right to like all this stuff like it's all possible 

00:30:30 - 00:30:32
Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Yeah, I'm kind of wonder used to 

00:30:33 - 00:30:38
Speaker 1: Kind of say my mother used to my mother used to watch Hook back in the day, he used to want to be Thud. 

00:30:39 - 00:30:41
Speaker 2: Who's Thud? Is that you who used to roll down the 

00:30:41 - 00:30:42
Speaker 3: thing? No, that's you, man. That's the big boy? 

00:30:43 - 00:30:56
Speaker 2: That's you. That's you, Mondo. Hey, I watched Hook maybe like 4 months ago. And when he rolled down the little whatever, bro, I wish, hey, man, Mack, if you can put that in this video, fam. 

00:30:56 - 00:30:59
Speaker 3: I know what you're talking about. Yeah, I'm a round dude. 

00:31:01 - 00:31:02
Speaker 2: That's T all day. 

00:31:02 - 00:31:05
Speaker 1: No, that's who Mondo wanted to be growing up. You know what I'm saying? 

00:31:05 - 00:31:08
Speaker 2: You got the sword at the end, though, didn't you? 

00:31:09 - 00:31:10
Speaker 1: You got the sword at the end. 

00:31:10 - 00:31:10
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. 

00:31:13 - 00:31:14
Speaker 1: He ain't me. You know what I'm saying? 

00:31:14 - 00:31:15
Speaker 2: He was like. 

00:31:19 - 00:31:27
Speaker 1: But no, we're talking about the Busta Rhymes interview. I still got to peep it. I still got it. I didn't even know about the Tyler Perry. So I definitely got to peep that. 

00:31:27 - 00:31:48
Speaker 1: But 1 thing that you said was killing dreams, right? Kid, you know, you know, as adults, like, you know, as if adults say something like that, it's it's looked down upon. But if a kid says it, you know, it's lifted, right? Like, yeah, you can accomplish that. And so that reminds me of this viral video I've seen this last week, man. 

00:31:49 - 00:32:11
Speaker 1: It was testing my Switzerland, man. Oh, it's testing my Switzerland. So this mom, she's doing her makeup at the time in the video And she's clowning her son because he said he wants to be the next LeBron James. And she's just going in on her son like, you know, your daddy coaches the team. You can't even and you can't even. 

00:32:11 - 00:32:16
Speaker 1: And you're coming off the bench and just you're never going to be, you know, the next LeBron James. You want to 

00:32:16 - 00:32:17
Speaker 2: be the dad? You want 

00:32:17 - 00:32:56
Speaker 1: to be the business LeBron James. You might be that you're never gonna be the basketball player. Hey, man, it is a test. Like I said, testing my Switzerland, testing my not cussing on this episode to go in on her because like what kind of low life insecure person or individual are you that you're sitting here having to record yourself putting makeup on because you're too dang ugly visually and also your heart to dish your son like that. That is, man, you are, you're a rodent straight up. 

00:32:56 - 00:32:58
Speaker 1: Like that's the best way I can describe her. 

00:32:58 - 00:33:01
Speaker 2: Man, she's a rodent. Not master Splinter, huh? 

00:33:02 - 00:33:04
Speaker 1: No, not master Splinter. I'm talking about straight. 

00:33:06 - 00:33:08
Speaker 2: Man, I don't want 

00:33:08 - 00:33:25
Speaker 1: to go in, but I just killing dreams like, you know, a few like who killed who was so bad to you in your life that they killed your dreams that you hate on your own son. That's your son. You gave birth to him and you're going to hate on him like that, man. That's some low life. Try not to cuss, man. 

00:33:25 - 00:33:26
Speaker 1: But it is. 

00:33:27 - 00:34:04
Speaker 2: I was just let me let me shout out 1 more person, right? So Demarion was last week or the week before last, like put in our family group chat, like, hey, does somebody have a physical copy of the 4 Agreements? And just to be 18 and just ask that just on his own recognizance, just like, yo, I wanna learn, let me read that book, was super dope. But there's 1 part in that book that highlights what Torian is saying, or it's like the story of this girl who loves to sing and comes home and that day, Right? Like the mom just had a super rough day and just she was at her wits end. 

00:34:04 - 00:34:18
Speaker 2: And the girls in a room singing and just having a good time. And her mom is so frustrated with a headache. And she hears her mom yell like, like, shut up, you can't even sing. Right. And it kind of highlights in the book like, yo, that moment, the girl stopped singing. 

00:34:18 - 00:34:53
Speaker 2: Right. The words that come out of parents mouth like in can stand the test of time positive or negative and so to what T is alluding to yo yeah you can be LeBron you know you can you can be you can own the team if you want. Like you can do all the stuff as long as they can dream as high as they can dream, which is shout out to my pops. I say to everybody, I'm like, I don't even know what it's like to not have confidence. There may have been a time in my life where I lacked a little because I was climbing me because my ears was too big. 

00:34:53 - 00:34:55
Speaker 2: But I don't forgot about that. You know, I'm saying 

00:34:55 - 00:34:57
Speaker 1: some things go flat. 

00:34:57 - 00:35:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. My ears was huge. But like, yo, I'm like watching this Tyler Perry thing and then kind of like watching his kind of insecurities and like this trauma, this stuff that he's carrying. And I'm like, yo, I'm so grateful for us, for our family to not have had that. And I'm just like, yo, we're so blessed. 

00:35:17 - 00:35:34
Speaker 2: I mean, shout out to all these other families. Like, I don't want to knock any other family to be like, you ain't as good as us. But I will say that, like, our family is so dope. And I'm so grateful because we just all show up for each other, man. And whoever don't have Mando got the confidence, but maybe his empathy is a little off, right? 

00:35:34 - 00:35:44
Speaker 2: All right, let me go to somebody with some more empathy. Like we all got our own gift and our gifts are at peak level. And together, it was Avengers Assemble out here, so. 

00:35:45 - 00:35:48
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a little off like your left eye, you know, but it's all good. 

00:35:48 - 00:35:57
Speaker 2: Hey, I was crying. I'm looking at broken robots in the back. I'm like, Matt got me looking like this cat, you know, saying behind me, you know, say teary eyed. So 

00:35:57 - 00:36:12
Speaker 3: now I was speaking to broken robots, bro. It's like my mind. Like you said, man, we got Like when you hear stories like that, like even coaching, right, you see some parents yelling at their kids being overly aggressive, right? And to them, it's just motivation. I'm trying to motivate you. 

00:36:12 - 00:36:19
Speaker 3: I'm helping you. But like you said, model is given the kids the freedom to dream and just allow just guide them when they need you. Right. 

00:36:20 - 00:36:20
Speaker 2: You know, 

00:36:20 - 00:36:30
Speaker 3: I'm saying motivation isn't saying anything discouraging because you're there, you heard no right. I let them bloom. And when they need you, they'll come to you. So encouraging, bro. 

00:36:30 - 00:36:31
Speaker 2: Like, you know, say it. 

00:36:32 - 00:36:45
Speaker 1: Yeah. So. So, Mack, I want to ask you that question was like as a coach Have you witnessed Parents killing kids dreams right there on the on the field and my short, you know, how did you react 

00:36:45 - 00:37:21
Speaker 3: for sure? So sometimes it happens from people who I'm familiar with, right? Like kids on my team or people that I know. At the end of the day, I know it's rooted out of love. Like, you know, because outside of the game, like I see them taking their kids on trips or you know I'm saying taking them to professional games and all that like it's rooted in love but you know a lot of us we didn't have our dads right so we don't know how to show that love without the aggression you know so I do witness that a lot and This isn't nothing to do with the question, but I want to shout out new right Tori I told you max coach right Mack. 

00:37:21 - 00:37:22
Speaker 3: He's been playing for for no 

00:37:22 - 00:37:23
Speaker 1: shot on 

00:37:23 - 00:37:46
Speaker 3: 5 6 years Yeah, but he told me this dope story at the last practice love, you know, his nephew was Jalen Suggs, right? So he goes back and forth to our land to a lot. He brings his family He's not 1 of the aggressive dads, like he's chill, great dad, right? But he told me he came downstairs and he has a son, Nori, who's a real go-getter young guy. I think he's like 6 years old, but like has a heart of a lion already, right? 

00:37:46 - 00:38:05
Speaker 3: So he said, I came downstairs and I'm like, Nuri, what are you doing? He said he had on a tuxedo and he had a Colby Grinch jersey over it. He said he looked at him with a straight face and said, man, I'm getting ready for the draft. Like straight face, right? So like, I respect that from Nuri because he didn't crush his dream. 

00:38:05 - 00:38:18
Speaker 3: He's like, okay. That's dope. You gotta allow these kids to bloom and dream. That's just very important. You can pull them to the side and have conversations with them about their performance, but you don't need to embarrass them in front of other people. 

00:38:18 - 00:38:27
Speaker 3: There's some parents who go on a court or grab their kid, yank them, punch them, hit them. That's not helping. You know what I'm saying? 

00:38:27 - 00:38:27
Speaker 2: Your kid should 

00:38:27 - 00:38:32
Speaker 3: not be crying in the middle of a game because of something that you're saying to him as a parent. 

00:38:33 - 00:38:50
Speaker 1: Yeah. I can imagine that pressure. And I think, too, like, you know, you know, new, you know, I know he he's rooted in the community. He's he's a coach himself. And so the best thing he can do as a dad, and I know he's going to do this right, is put his son in the best position 

00:38:51 - 00:38:51
Speaker 3: to be 

00:38:51 - 00:39:05
Speaker 1: ready for that draft. Right. And like that's what we got to you know, that's what we got to do is like, yo, you got a dream like, you know, Mondo always, you know, in his in his videos. I don't know if you said it quite yet on the podcast, Mando. But man, go all in. 

00:39:05 - 00:39:21
Speaker 1: Go all in and I dream like, you know, help your kid get to that point. And if they pivot, they may pivot because their kids. Right. But it's just the fact that, you know, as parents, like it's not it's not our job to pass our insecurities down to our kids. It's our job to check our check ourselves. 

00:39:23 - 00:39:46
Speaker 1: It's our job. It's our job to check ourselves, check our insecurities and uplift and put our kids in a position to be the best version of them. And so like, man, like, you know, I'm not gonna go into the story, but you know, similar situation happened to me. And it, I ain't gonna lie, man, it scarred me for a very, very long time, man. And you know, yeah, so. 

00:39:47 - 00:40:01
Speaker 2: I'll keep it positive, because I remember 1 story from my pops 1, as you were saying that, so I don't forget Torian told me that y'all called last episode 9.5, which means this is episode 10. And so shout out to episode 10. Right. Right. 

00:40:01 - 00:40:16
Speaker 1: And we, and we, and we did that cause you weren't here Mondo. Like it's not complete unless the 3 of us are here. So people see 25 episodes. That means 1 of us may have been absent because we had something else going on. But our goal is to bring as much consistency as we can. 

00:40:16 - 00:40:20
Speaker 1: We want to show up every week. And so, you know, but my bad, my 

00:40:20 - 00:40:27
Speaker 2: daughter made a good. No, it's all good. It just kind of hit me. It's like, let me throw that in there because that made me feel good when you told me that. So shout out to you all for that. 

00:40:27 - 00:40:47
Speaker 2: I remember senior year of high school or junior or senior year 1 of the times, right? My dad used to yell at me from the stands, right? Actually like at Central, all the student sections on 1 side and on the other side that's empty, it'd be my dad sitting by himself, right? Right? Like he's like, oh, you're going to hear me, right? 

00:40:47 - 00:41:12
Speaker 2: But my pops knew that he never said anything negative, but I just always heard his voice, right? It was the thing that helped me up to get to that next thing. And my pops always had my back. And me and my coach, shout out to coach how right like off the court, dope cat always in his office kicking it on the court, man, we beefing right? We did not see eye to eye. 

00:41:12 - 00:42:14
Speaker 2: But I remember Him and I were having a disagreement About a game and then we were like, are we gonna go have this conversation after the game me my dad and co-child and I remember fam going into this office and having this conversation and bruh, I was snapping and I was like, yo, I'm gonna be a McDonald's All-American. Like full-blown, probably the same confidence as homie who walked down with a tuxedo and Kobe jersey on. And I'm saying this and my dad is sitting right next to me like yeah cool if that's what you believe that's what you believe and like just Nobody's saying that it can't be true, and I'll just never forget that because I'm like yo I'm in middle of Minnesota right like cool I could who but I'm not on the national track of like, oh, McDonald's All-American at the time. However, I believed it. That delusion is something that still carries me to this day. 

00:42:14 - 00:42:33
Speaker 2: Like, McDonald's All-American just wasn't big enough. Like, that's how I look at it. I'm like, oh, it's supposed to be something else then, right? And so, man, just to continue to pour into your kids, allow them to believe in the thing that they believe in in that moment so that they can believe in the next thing that's higher and the next thing that's higher and the next thing that's higher. Never squash that dream, bruh. 

00:42:33 - 00:42:47
Speaker 2: And if you don't, man, all our kids gonna win. Like, I know everybody in Mack's house gonna win. You know, Rainey, like she ain't accepting anything other than a W. And like, Kaden's fam, I can't even win with her. So she already a boss. 

00:42:49 - 00:42:55
Speaker 1: So question, Mondo. So was that Coach Howe that was yelling out the window, Armando, 

00:42:56 - 00:42:59
Speaker 2: Armando? Nah, that was Coach Bill. 

00:43:00 - 00:43:15
Speaker 1: All right, so Coach Bill. So Mondo played football as well. He even got some recruiting letters, I remember, from Stanford and Michigan for football. And man, it was summertime. He got practice. 

00:43:15 - 00:43:16
Speaker 1: And it 

00:43:16 - 00:43:18
Speaker 2: was right after the hoop it up or Gus wasn't it 

00:43:18 - 00:43:22
Speaker 1: yeah like the next day after after the long basketball turn we can the best 

00:43:22 - 00:43:26
Speaker 2: 2 a days was next yeah they just practice it's 2 a days well 

00:43:27 - 00:43:48
Speaker 1: 2 a days and man Mondo's like the night before I'm not going to practice so we were up late probably playing video games or whatever, just tired from the weekend. And yeah, next thing we know, we went to sleep. And early, early in the morning, I wake up to, I'm Raimondo, I'm Raimondo. And it was. 

00:43:49 - 00:43:49
Speaker 2: Oh, the coach pulled 

00:43:49 - 00:43:50
Speaker 3: up on you? 

00:43:50 - 00:43:58
Speaker 2: Come pull it up. Pull it up. Yelling. Yelling from outside. And I was like, yo, somebody called me. 

00:43:58 - 00:44:08
Speaker 2: I don't know who this is. I go downstairs, open the door. And he's just like, yo. I think it was like the second half of practice, because you do 2 a days. He's like, you coming? 

00:44:08 - 00:44:21
Speaker 2: I said, nope. And I went back in there and went to sleep. Yo, it just wasn't football did not speak my love language. And after hooping, we probably won at the end too. You know what I'm saying? 

00:44:21 - 00:44:34
Speaker 2: After hooping, I was just like, man, I ain't about to do this football thing. I get there when I get there. And so there was some ego there, right? Like, you know, there was some players that's probably like, dang, like that's disrespectful. But yeah, man, I had to. 

00:44:34 - 00:44:37
Speaker 2: Should I had to follow my heart? Yeah. Yeah. 

00:44:37 - 00:44:40
Speaker 1: So that ain't quite how I remember the story, but 

00:44:40 - 00:44:42
Speaker 2: I remember the story. And, you know, 

00:44:43 - 00:44:46
Speaker 3: I heard my name and I went and looked through the shades to see who it was. 

00:44:46 - 00:44:48
Speaker 1: No, that's exactly what Mondo did. 

00:44:48 - 00:44:51
Speaker 2: I know, this thing coming. I want to open the door like. 

00:44:54 - 00:45:03
Speaker 1: So that's what he did. So I woke up and I'm like, man, who the hell screaming? Who's who's screaming his name? Right. Like, why is somebody yelling Mondo's name? 

00:45:04 - 00:45:24
Speaker 1: And Mondo's, I think that might be 1 of my coaches and so like you know Mondo's room was right above like the front door and so he peeped out just a little bit out the window and was like oh that's yeah that's coach Bill. I ain't going there. By that time I'm up. I'm like, I'm mad because I'm like, man, as tired as we is, I'm up. Mondo goes back to sleep. 

00:45:24 - 00:45:31
Speaker 1: He keeps on yelling, keeps on yelling. And it was for some, I swear, it felt like it was for some hours this man was yelling. 

00:45:31 - 00:45:35
Speaker 2: See how Torrean didn't exaggerate. You think somebody yelling another man's name for an hour, bro. Come on. 

00:45:35 - 00:45:43
Speaker 1: Bro, it was a long time. Like no BS, it was a long time, man. And yeah, so that's how I remember that story. 

00:45:43 - 00:45:43
Speaker 3: But it 

00:45:43 - 00:45:55
Speaker 2: was- I did go downstairs, because I remember having to look at him in his face and be like, I'm not going. I do remember that for sure. And then showing up probably the next day, like, what up, I'm here now. You know, it was on some Antonio Brown type stuff for sure. 

00:45:57 - 00:46:00
Speaker 3: You was a receiver, bro. It was Diva, you know, it was Diva shit. You 

00:46:00 - 00:46:10
Speaker 2: loved it. It definitely was, man. That's not to say, if you're an athlete, it's not to say, don't follow me. You know what I'm saying? Like, I got my own mind, right? 

00:46:10 - 00:46:14
Speaker 2: Show up to practice. That works, yeah. 

00:46:15 - 00:46:30
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, so, you know, what a, You know, holiday spirit here. Like, you know, we talk about delusional. We talk about, you know, is there anything like like what's the best gift y'all ever got that you remember? Like 

00:46:31 - 00:46:39
Speaker 2: For Christmas, because Iraq was a birthday gift, I think, or is a random gift. 

00:46:40 - 00:46:42
Speaker 3: You mean like what I think is 

00:46:42 - 00:46:43
Speaker 2: the best gift now, or 

00:46:43 - 00:46:46
Speaker 3: you mean during the time, like this kid, how excited I was 

00:46:46 - 00:47:09
Speaker 1: and just in general, like or, you know, I should say, okay, let's switch the question up, man. Like what is a gift that you guys could receive right now? And you would just be like, man, that was just dope. And it could be Something material or it could be you know something non material, but like what is something that like on? You know what something a gift that job to receive that you're just like yo, this is dope 

00:47:10 - 00:47:35
Speaker 2: So I got you So I was like all right God I can't have no material things, right? You know, back to the basics. Cool. So I asked Cadence multiple times, if you could be sponsored by any company, who would you want to be sponsored by? And she said a couple, but 1 that she said, she was like, Oh, I definitely rock essential. 

00:47:36 - 00:47:45
Speaker 2: And so 2 days ago, like as best as I could, I reached out like, yo to the, to the cat. Cause he went to fam you or whatever, the founder of 

00:47:45 - 00:47:46
Speaker 3: the center. 

00:47:46 - 00:47:47
Speaker 1: So 

00:47:47 - 00:48:07
Speaker 2: yeah, and so I was just like, oh man, like that would be dope. So a dope gift would be that contact and be like, oh yeah, I'm a sponsor, dad, daughter. And so whatever you do as a man, whatever she does as a girl, like I'm a sponsor of that journey. You all just got to rock this essential attire. And so like that would be a fire gift right now. 

00:48:07 - 00:48:10
Speaker 2: And so I'm putting that out in the universe. 

00:48:10 - 00:48:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's dope. That's dope. How about you, Mike? 

00:48:13 - 00:48:17
Speaker 3: I don't know. Yeah, man, You go first. Well, I 

00:48:17 - 00:48:20
Speaker 2: was hoping you wasn't going to go so I could think of something. 

00:48:20 - 00:48:34
Speaker 3: Yeah, really? I'm not too big on gifts, bro. You know, I appreciate the little things. Like a few weeks ago, maybe a month ago or so, Maro just wrote me and his mom this letter, right? Just, I love you. 

00:48:34 - 00:49:05
Speaker 3: Thanks for doing this Thanks for teaching me sports and all of this shit like because he complains a lot when you know I'm like, all right, let's go train. I get a lot of complaints, but I like him writing that letter just lets me know I'm appreciate it. You know what I mean? Like Mack doing school projects and he'll draw his dad on there. You know I'm saying like oh my dad helped me do this but that's that's what fulfills me bro like gifts and all that shit like I Really don't care too much for it, but just you know, just like you know, all the women and you know relation Just let me feel appreciated Feels me bro. 

00:49:05 - 00:49:11
Speaker 3: Oh, yeah, What's the name? I want to pull up and give me a Tesla or something. I mean, 

00:49:11 - 00:49:16
Speaker 2: I was waiting for 1 of y'all to throw a Kennel joke out here. So man, but y'all y'all chilling today, huh? 

00:49:18 - 00:49:47
Speaker 1: Mack got all the accessories he needs. So he's great. But but now I'll piggyback off that, man. Like, you know, it's hard for me to think about material stuff because I'll be like, man, I really don't need anything until I need something. You know, if that makes sense, like it's just, you know, I don't really have time to be thinking about like I used to be 1 of them guys that would go on like Best Buy dot com or, you know, try to find a deal on a TV or like, you know, look for some type of technology that I I felt like I needed. 

00:49:47 - 00:50:16
Speaker 1: But man, I got a PS5 I ain't even open and I ain't played it yet. Right. And so like it's just I'm in a different mindset right now. But I think the 1 gift that I would want is, man, for everybody, just everybody to, you know, I felt I had a lot of conversations recently and it seems like life is just kicking everybody's ass, man. And, you know, I just my gift would just be mad for the tide to turn for for those around me, but also in the world, man. 

00:50:16 - 00:50:49
Speaker 1: And just, you know, you know, shout out to young thug, you know, and gonna because apparently pushing P means pushing positivity. So we go, we go and say what that that is what it meant. And That's what I always thought the song meant when they were saying they was pushing P. But it's just like, yo, pushing that positivity and getting more positivity out there, man. Like, you know, I want I want to see people appreciating their life more and also like, you know, feeling Like life ain't against them, but they're, you know, starting to get those those W's, man. 

00:50:49 - 00:51:18
Speaker 1: And like that would make me it makes me happy, man. It makes me happy anytime to a positive conversation with somebody in and they're just like, yo, they're loving life, right? Like they're they're they're loving that because like, you know, I mentioned this a couple of podcasts ago, but like I embrace positivity in my life, like, you know, 10 plus years, years ago. And it's just been it's been dope and it's dope to try to look at things from a positive point of view. Now, that don't mean I'll ever get down. 

00:51:18 - 00:51:33
Speaker 1: I don't mean like, you know, there's not times I'm negative or whatever, but it's just my point is is man like Life's kicking it kicking our you know, some asses right now. It's kicking my ass a couple weeks ago and it's time for us to kick life's ass, you know? 

00:51:33 - 00:51:44
Speaker 2: So that would be the greatest gift. I feel like Rainey needs a swear jar. You know what I'm saying? You gotta put a dollar. You gotta put a dollar in there every time you swear because you had like 6 dollars. 

00:51:45 - 00:51:49
Speaker 1: Well, ass is in the Bible. So you know, we- 

00:51:51 - 00:51:56
Speaker 2: So you ain't going to correct, you're going to tell the teacher, oh no, Rainey can say ass at school because it's in the Bible? 

00:51:57 - 00:52:09
Speaker 1: Nah, but For these purposes and for future podcasts as well as long as I'm ever gonna go again without swearing And it's just you know, but 

00:52:10 - 00:52:30
Speaker 2: Well, 1 of the things I said though was super dope that kind of hit man 1 seeing other people win I think it's super key The other thing that you said though is like not opening that ps5 like there's some fear there You know I'm saying cuz when it comes to video games fam, like you don't want that work. So I'm just trying to figure out when you open it up, you know? 

00:52:31 - 00:52:42
Speaker 1: It's just a time thing for me. This is a distraction I don't need, man. That's how I feel. OK, like it's a distraction I don't need, but I've been wanting to play. And then Rainey's been wanting, you know, a switch lately. 

00:52:42 - 00:53:02
Speaker 1: That's another thing that she wants, because, you know, when Alexis kids got a switch and now she wants to switch and it's just like You know, so she wants to play video games, too So maybe maybe during Christmas break will open it up and she can play some The last of us with me which probably ain't good which is not kid appropriate, so I have to buy my own other game. 

00:53:02 - 00:53:06
Speaker 2: But anyway. You see how he ducked me? 

00:53:06 - 00:53:07
Speaker 3: Yeah, he don't want 

00:53:07 - 00:53:11
Speaker 2: no smoke. You see that? Okay, it's cool. You always want it. 

00:53:11 - 00:53:13
Speaker 1: Well, bruh, for the last 53 minutes 

00:53:13 - 00:53:13
Speaker 3: of 

00:53:13 - 00:53:16
Speaker 1: this podcast, you've been talking about how delusional you were. 

00:53:17 - 00:53:22
Speaker 2: And like, and delusions. So I'm not even giving that no power. You know, I'm like, OK, 

00:53:23 - 00:53:23
Speaker 1: you know, but 

00:53:23 - 00:53:24
Speaker 2: I feel that 

00:53:24 - 00:53:34
Speaker 3: on a random tip, though, right? I do have a question for you. I've seen this question online. I just want to know your thoughts and know your answers on it. So you could choose between the 2. 

00:53:35 - 00:53:47
Speaker 3: You get $100,000 wired directly to your bank account today. Or you flip a coin for $10 million. Which 1 are you taking? 

00:53:49 - 00:53:50
Speaker 1: That's easy. 

00:53:52 - 00:53:53
Speaker 3: I need to know why 

00:53:54 - 00:54:00
Speaker 1: I'm flipping the coin. I'm flipping the coin. I'm flipping the reason because 

00:54:00 - 00:54:03
Speaker 3: it's 50 over because that guarantee 100 K. 

00:54:03 - 00:54:25
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the variances 50 50 chance At a million dollars I can make 100k in a year. So but with you million dollars Yeah, how long is it gonna take you to flip it to 10 million? That's my point. So like 10 million dollars, you know, for a 50 50 chance to million dollars, that's better than the lottery. That's better than any odds that you're ever going to see out here. 

00:54:25 - 00:54:42
Speaker 1: Even if you went on a game show like they're not giving away $10 million prize. So I feel like just from the variance piece, you just got to take the 10 million or take your chance at 10 million. And if you lose, oh, you can go make 100 K, you know, it's a lot harder to make 10 million. So. 

00:54:43 - 00:55:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going I'm going with the coin to less on the math, though. Like actually has nothing to do with the math. I'm just like, yo, either God wants my story to be like, oh yeah, fam, all you had to do is flip that coin. Or it's, man, you the dummy that flipped the coin and got nothing. And then I follow up and it's just like, yeah fam. 

00:55:04 - 00:55:11
Speaker 2: Cause I got the a hundred million was around the corner. Right. And so for me, it's all story. T's a math guy though. Yeah. 

00:55:11 - 00:55:12
Speaker 2: What you doing, 

00:55:12 - 00:55:20
Speaker 3: Mack? I'm flipping that bitch too bro. I need that 10K. Yeah. So I have faith in you know all that's about bro flipping that coin. 

00:55:21 - 00:55:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, so alright, alright so then we hit, we hit the 10 mil. What are you spending your money on first? What are you spending your first 100k on? 

00:55:33 - 00:55:43
Speaker 1: The first thing I'm doing is purchasing HD cameras for the 3 of us. So, that **** can be So, this podcast gonna look a little crispier. You know what I'm saying? Like, you might think of the studio. 

00:55:43 - 00:55:45
Speaker 3: Right. You're gonna give us a studio, bro. 

00:55:45 - 00:55:46
Speaker 1: You're gonna get a 

00:55:50 - 00:55:51
Speaker 2: studio. Right. 

00:55:52 - 00:56:02
Speaker 1: We're gonna do this podcast. You know, but I'm definitely, man. Just, you know, if I got 10 million, you know, make sure my mom's straight. Make sure my pops are straight. Make sure my grandparents are straight. 

00:56:02 - 00:56:08
Speaker 1: You know, uncles and everything else but then, you know, make sure, you know, 

00:56:08 - 00:56:10
Speaker 2: I'm I got to put you on the spot real quick. 

00:56:10 - 00:56:11
Speaker 1: Yeah, go ahead. 

00:56:11 - 00:56:13
Speaker 2: You got 10 mil. So what is straight? 

00:56:15 - 00:56:19
Speaker 1: Good question. That's a great question. 

00:56:19 - 00:56:24
Speaker 2: Right. He just listed off a whole bunch of them. I'm like, man, bro, straight? Like, how straight? 

00:56:25 - 00:56:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, straight. So first thing I would do is check with my financial advisor. Shout out John. Shout out John Bernstein for that. But yeah, I would check him out and or, you know, discuss it with him. 

00:56:39 - 00:57:07
Speaker 1: But yeah, I would just try to make, you know, assurances in place to make sure that like, you know, this money can grow. But it also means that, you know, my people are straight. And like what I mean by straight is, is even if that's an extra 15, 20K a year for a little bit of period of time, that helps. That helps the burden that they may have on them. And so, like, you know, yeah, I can't retire them. 

00:57:07 - 00:57:13
Speaker 1: You know, if you if you give them a million dollars, they can go spend that shit in a day and then they ain't got it. They ain't got it. 

00:57:13 - 00:57:17
Speaker 2: No more back. They're back. Yeah, they're back. Straight. I ain't straight no more. 

00:57:17 - 00:57:28
Speaker 1: They're back looking for it. So but yeah, I mean, you know, and then figure out how to make the money grow. Like, you know, figure out how to make the money grow. So then that way I can live the best life I want to live. Rainey can too. 

00:57:28 - 00:57:39
Speaker 1: And, you know, our family can our family can, I should say? And, you know, that's how I look at it. I don't think I would go out and buy nothing expensive, but. 

00:57:40 - 00:57:42
Speaker 2: Okay. What about you, Mack? What you, what you spending on? 

00:57:42 - 00:57:50
Speaker 3: You hear this 1, my T, where you at? Oh, You know, I'm in Cabo or I mean, you know You're gonna be out this bitch. You already know I 

00:57:50 - 00:57:54
Speaker 1: do what I got a cabo for my birthday that might happen But we're gonna see 

00:57:54 - 00:58:19
Speaker 3: okay for sure Probably the same thing that's Taurian paid off dick. No, I'm saying I did hear this Watch this video about life insurance. Oh, bro. I probably you know put a whole bunch of money in there So accumulate more and grow shit. I hear that's the way of doing it better than sitting there putting that shit in the bank So I'll just be smart man talk to people figure out where to put this money so to grow But yeah, I know I don't need to watch dress up. 

00:58:19 - 00:58:23
Speaker 3: I try to be smart with that joint. That's what's up. 

00:58:23 - 00:58:35
Speaker 2: About you. Yeah, I mean, 1, I gotta pay off all this debt cause I got plenty. 2, I'd probably go to a cobble or go somewhere with the most comfortable bed. Because I want to sleep for like a week. 

00:58:36 - 00:58:39
Speaker 3: After this live. All we got to do is go back to Hollywood, bro. Go back 

00:58:39 - 00:58:45
Speaker 2: to Cali. Oh, yeah. Yeah, we go back to Hollywood, bro. Like, man. Like, after these last 2 years. 

00:58:46 - 00:58:48
Speaker 2: Wow, that's cool. Hey, boogie. 

00:58:49 - 00:58:50
Speaker 1: Hey, this whole trip was a mystery. 

00:58:50 - 00:59:01
Speaker 2: They still ain't never, like every time you talk about this Hollywood trip, all y'all do is look at each other and start laughing. And then shake your head like, anyways. So yeah, we got to, 

00:59:01 - 00:59:02
Speaker 1: I need to figure out what happened 

00:59:02 - 00:59:15
Speaker 2: in this trip, man. We got a family business. You know, yeah, family matters, you know. That's funny. But not mad like be straight up after these last 2 years. 

00:59:15 - 00:59:27
Speaker 2: Like, I want to be able to sleep soundly for a minute. I don't have to worry about nothing when I get up. I don't have to think about no money. It's just like, man, somebody take care of that, bro. I'm still asleep. 

00:59:28 - 00:59:47
Speaker 2: That's just so important for me right now. I don't know why. It just feels like an exhaustion just being released off you. And then after that, man, I would love to do like an all-family trip to Disney. Like everybody, like whoever want to go can go. 

00:59:47 - 00:59:55
Speaker 2: I feel like that would be so fun, fam. And so hopefully, since y'all flipped the same coin, y'all could put in on it, you know what I'm saying? 

00:59:57 - 01:00:00
Speaker 1: Hey, facts, straight up. Hey, I just seen. 

01:00:00 - 01:00:06
Speaker 1: Nick Cannon said he took his 8 kids or whatever he got to Disneyland. And that's and it cost him 200000. 

01:00:06 - 01:00:10
Speaker 2: Now, he said he said that's about how much he spent in a year going to Disney. 

01:00:11 - 01:00:21
Speaker 1: Oh, OK. That was a year. Yeah. Yeah, that's still That's still kind of crazy. But let's just say the bill is 200K and you got and you got that 10 million tax free. 

01:00:21 - 01:00:22
Speaker 1: Still, you're still funding it, Mondo. 

01:00:23 - 01:00:33
Speaker 3: Oh, yeah. Disney, man. Disney is magical, bro. Like you took the whole family to Disney. The return on investment of that magical strip is is way more than 200. 

01:00:33 - 01:00:35
Speaker 3: It's more than 2000000. Like, 

01:00:35 - 01:00:38
Speaker 2: so you cover flights and all that shit, too, or 

01:00:38 - 01:00:42
Speaker 3: to go to Disney? Yes, I think Disney is that fire. 

01:00:43 - 01:00:44
Speaker 2: OK, 

01:00:44 - 01:01:01
Speaker 3: like, OK, We're going to be here for a week. We're going to hit all the parks. We free to do what you want, man. It just Disney to me is. I think it's the closest thing to not to get all biblical, but it's the closest thing to Eden, right? 

01:01:01 - 01:01:15
Speaker 3: Like you don't have to think like about safety or whatever. You just go and explore as a kid or as an adult. And there's just stuff to just have fun, vibe, whatever. I just I love Disney World. I think it's amazing. 

01:01:16 - 01:01:28
Speaker 1: No. Yeah. So to my family, you know, for all of us to go to Disneyland or Disney World, that's $200,000. Instead, we're going to have a Disney-themed party. 

01:01:29 - 01:01:30
Speaker 3: At Como Park pavilion. 

01:01:31 - 01:01:44
Speaker 1: Nah. Hey, we could do Como. See, I could do Como. We could do Como Park Pavilion for sure. I was thinking Devonies or something, like with a party room. 

01:01:45 - 01:01:45
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? 

01:01:45 - 01:01:47
Speaker 3: I do want to go to Chuck E. Cheese. 

01:01:48 - 01:01:55
Speaker 1: Hey, Chuck E. Cheese, we're going to have Disney stuff. They can have a Mickey show up. We could do whatever. 

01:01:55 - 01:01:57
Speaker 3: All the games. It ain't the same, bro. 

01:01:57 - 01:02:10
Speaker 1: All the games. And I could save $190,000. That's the whole point. But, but, but I will give away $1,000 to 20 people that come. 

01:02:11 - 01:02:11
Speaker 3: All 

01:02:11 - 01:02:21
Speaker 1: right. So family, like, what you think? Like you want in on an action or you trying to go to Disney World? Which which which 1 is it? You know what I mean? 

01:02:21 - 01:02:34
Speaker 3: Hey, that is such an interesting question. Like, hey, man, you want to go to Disney or you want to go to Chuck E. Cheese with a chance to win $10,000 because this tutorial is giving away 10 grand. Hey, hey, that's that's the new Jay-Z question. You know what I'm saying? 

01:02:37 - 01:02:43
Speaker 1: Yeah, it might be. Might be. But who wants to who wants to send this out today, man? Who wants to send this out? 

01:02:45 - 01:02:47
Speaker 3: And I talked a lot, so 1 of y'all. 

01:02:48 - 01:03:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess I will I really ain't got too much but Continue to better yourself man love the people around you don't let the holiday season or any of the stresses that come with it, you know. Get to your mental, man, because if you're checked out mentally, bro, ain't none of them gifts or anything else gonna matter, man. So just take care of yourself, man, and continue to love people around you. That's all I got. 

01:03:14 - 01:03:14
Speaker 3: Love it. 

01:03:14 - 01:03:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, love it too, man. Appreciate it. I know I got to do this at the beginning of the podcast, but if you like what you heard today, like subscribe, like now, man. So you can't be me. I was like, I know you're trying to be me, but you can't be me. 

01:03:27 - 01:03:52
Speaker 1: But yeah, man, like subscribe and, you know, follow us on all social media platforms. It does help us grow. It does help our channel helps the podcast. So for show, I mean, happy birthday to my beautiful daughter, Rainey, my my beautiful niece, Cadence, and, you know, my little brother, my man, happy birthday to you. And, you know, we go on. 

01:03:52 - 01:04:02
Speaker 1: Happy birthday to anybody with a December birthday for sure. From the They Call Me Daddy Appearance podcast. Episode 10! Yeah! Episode 10! 

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01:04:08 - 01:04:11
Speaker 2: All right. We out. Peace.